What Not to Write on a Child's Report Card

Last week, while my parents were putting away Christmas decorations, they came across a box, shoved to the back of a shelf,  which contained what my dad would call "memorabilia" and my mom would call "crap."Amongst these treasures were some things that they saw fit to send to my house to live, the bulk of which was a collection of schoolwork and report cards from several grades. The list of comments that follow are all quoted directly from my first grade report card, the 1980-81 school year.I was really wanting to write a whole rant about each of these comments. They really made me upset when I started looking at them. I called my father and while I yelled and cried he laughed...saying this teacher and my mom, Sue, never really saw eye to eye. Am I crazy or are some of these comments really inappropriate?! Now I know our education system has changed a lot. I know that if I as a 2012 teacher put a student's desk out in the hall and closed the door like my 5th grade teacher to me, that I would be fired. But still...

• "She is such a delight when she is absorbed in what we're doing, but she has very little self discipline when it's a less pleasurable task."
• "Sue, You asked not long ago how different J. was from the other classmates? I conclude, very different! She thinks beautifully and has great ability, but public school will possibly be increasingly difficult for her style."
• "I told Dale that Jessica either wore me down or she's changed because I have really enjoyed her this last nine weeks."
• "If I've prepared her in any way for next year, it's been worth our struggles."
• "She has taught me a lot and I feel privileged for the experience."
• "I look for her to be something great someday."
• "For the flowers, the candy, the party stuff, and your constant support, I've never felt so special."
• "Please call me at anytime in her school career if you need me."

 Here is the punchline...a few days ago a fellow teacher told me that one of her Facebook friends recognized my name and knew me from Randolph County. She said that she knew my dad also so I just figured it was someone who knew my dad, as everyone in NC public school system seems to. But my friend kept emphasizing the fact that the woman said she knew ME. As soon as she said the woman's name...I knew. It was the teacher who had written these comments 30 years ago. She still remembered me...and no wonder, right?! Now the last comment she put was to call her any time. She's living here in the mountains now. Think she'd be up for a student/teacher conference? I have some questions for her.

A Long Drive Home

On my drive home from Greensboro today I got really frustrated hitting the "scan" button on my stereo. Ordinarily surfing the radio stations is one of my favorite parts of the trip between the mountains and the Piedmont, but today it was a complete bust. My radio offered up to me bad classic rock, random cute girl singing dance music, several styles of religious songs, and lots and lots of modern country. Bah! Blah! Grrrr!

So I slowed down a bit and while I had my left hand on the wheel I started rifling through my car's various cubby holes for my iPod and its adapter. Several swerves later, I hit "shuffle songs" and waited for my own personal favorites to start. As usual, it did not disappoint. Even though there are thousands of songs on my iPod, it always seems to be able to tap into my psyche and play exactly the right song in the moment. What follows is a list of song lyrics that came on my iPod on the trip. Lyrics that resonated with me today from songs that randomly came through the speakers at me on this sunny drive home.

• "The laws of man don't apply when blood gets in a woman's eye."
• "Now I like nothing better than a pretty girl smile and I haven't seen a smile that pretty in a while."
• "Well her husband he's a violent man a very violent and jealous man. Now I have to leave this town. I got to leave while I still can.
• "Why you act frightened? I am enlightened."
• "But for now we are young. Let us lay in the sun and count every beautiful thing we can see."
• "To what you wanted to see good has made you blind, and what you wanted to be yours has made it mine."
• "Don't trade your love and goodness for the golden machine."
• "It's the fear that you know, but you gotta let go."
• "Lost in fog and love and faithless fear, I've had kisses that make Judas seem sincere."
• "What the hell am I trying to say?"
• "Glad I have the scrapes to prove it was me who fell."

How many do you recognize? Clue? Six of the eleven I have seen in concert sometime in the past 20 years...and a seventh I have tickets to see next month.